LBL Connect Lyme & Axminster – April 24

We discussed how change can be hard, regardless of whether the change is seen as positive or negative, regardless if it is wanted, needed, expected or a total surprise, it can be challenging to accept and even more difficult to take action to change ourselves. And of course, we recognised that it all depends, meaning that some types of change feels easy and others can completely blindside us. Some personalities in the group see change as exciting, others get motivated to manage the change and others feel scared or worried preferring things to just stay the same. We discussed the reasons for these feelings, and I shared some explanations of unconscious thoughts feelings and reactions and their potential causes.

We reflected on all of the changes that happens around us, all of the time, many we just take for granted, but when we pause to consider all of the different types of change we have already been through we can recognise that change IS the only constant and we can also notice our patterns over time toward change. Wouldn’t life be easier if we could accept change as normal, letting go of expectations and instead going with the flow, knowing we will survive what life throws at us, as we have done up to now!

My belief, from working with many different women, is that to help ourselves with change, we must first really get to know ourselves. As women we are good at being busy, serving others, looking after their needs and putting ourselves last. We’ve been conditioned by society, our upbringing, our culture and our experiences to do things in certain ways. We don’t stop to think about who we are and what we need. If we can spend time being curious about our beliefs, values, thoughts, judgments, triggers, reactions, habits, motivations, regrets…. if we can check our inner talk and question the stories we tell ourselves…then we discover the ability to choose who we want to be, how we want to live, the impact we have on others, how to fulfill our needs, what makes us happy, what things we want to change and how to make changes that give us the impact we want and deserve, to live a life with no regrets.